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April 24, 2024

Lori Adams-Brown on Learning to Dance in the Rain: Finding Joy and Resilience While Traveling

Lori Adams-Brown on Learning to Dance in the Rain: Finding Joy and Resilience While Traveling

Hey there, difference makers and global leaders! Ever feel like you've been told to just "toughen up" when facing life's challenges? Maybe you've tried to push through the pain and suffering, only to find yourself feeling overwhelmed and exhausted? If that sounds familiar, you're not alone. Let's talk about building resilience and embracing vulnerability to navigate life's twists and turns in a healthier way.


In this episode, you will be able to:

  • Strengthen your leadership skills by building resilience in the face of challenges.
  • Unlock your potential for success by cultivating a growth mindset.
  • Discover the power of self-care in navigating life's obstacles and maintaining balance.
  • Master strategies for overcoming jet lag to make the most of your travels.
  • Embrace vulnerability and emotions to unlock personal growth and self-discovery.
Resilience isn't necessarily about avoiding adversity, because let's just be real. Life has pain and suffering in it. And if we ignore that, that's not increasing our resilience. It's only burying that deep inside our bodies in a way that it will spill out later through some unresolved grief. - Lori Adams Brown


Building Resilience as a Leader

Effective leadership involves building resilience to navigate challenges and setbacks. Resilient leaders can inspire and motivate others through their own ability to bounce back from adversity. By embracing vulnerability and learning from difficult experiences, leaders can cultivate resilience that strengthens their decision-making and problem-solving skills.


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  • Share your tips and tricks for building resilience, especially for those who travel and work through jet lag, speak at events and conferences, and maintain connections with family back home. Engage with the community and contribute to the conversation.
  • Reach out to the host if you're in a location where she's traveling and would like to meet. Listeners are encouraged to connect with the host during her travels and share how the podcast has impacted them.
  • Embrace challenges, cultivate resilience, and discover the strength and courage within yourself. Prioritize self-care and resilience-building, and model this behavior for others to give them permission to do the same. Let the host know how you're building resilience on social media or in our Difference Makers community.


Resilience isn't just about weathering the storm. It's actually about learning to find joy, and find even joy memories in your own past that can help you walk through that resilience. - Lori Adams Brown


Cultivating Growth Mindset for Success

Cultivating a growth mindset is essential for success in both personal and professional endeavors. This mindset allows individuals to view challenges as opportunities for growth and learning. By approaching setbacks with a positive and open mindset, individuals can develop resilience and adaptability, ultimately leading to greater success and fulfillment.

Resilience isn't just about weathering the storm. It's actually about learning to find joy, and find even joy memories in your own past that can help you walk through that resilience. - Lori Adams Brown

The key moments in this episode are:

00:00:02 - Embracing Resilience in Life


00:02:00 - Resilience During Travel


00:03:07 - Prioritizing Self-Compassion


00:05:09 - Discovering Inner Resilience


00:08:15 - Cultivating Resilience


00:13:23 - Building Resilience During Travel


00:15:13 - Cultivating a Growth Mindset


00:19:43 - Building Resilient Communities


00:21:40 - Finding Joy and Resilience

Timestamped summary of this episode:

00:00:02 - Embracing Resilience in Life

Lori encourages difference makers to prioritize resilience and self-care, offering a special offer from Betterhelp for listeners.


00:02:00 - Resilience During Travel

Lori discusses the additional challenges of maintaining resilience while traveling, shares personal experiences, and hints at tips and tricks for managing resilience during travel.


00:03:07 - Prioritizing Self-Compassion

Lori emphasizes the importance of prioritizing self-compassion and self-care, especially for leaders and difference makers navigating life's challenges and obstacles.


00:05:09 - Discovering Inner Resilience

Lori shares a personal experience of returning to Asia, acknowledging emotions, and embracing vulnerability as key components of resilience cultivation.


00:08:15 - Cultivating Resilience

Lori highlights the importance of embracing vulnerability, acknowledging emotions, and finding joy moments to build resilience, both in personal and professional aspects of life.


00:13:23 - Building Resilience During Travel

Lori talks about the challenges of traveling for speaking engagements and shares tips on how she manages her time and energy at conferences. She emphasizes the importance of guarding time for rest and connecting with others while on the road.


00:15:13 - Cultivating a Growth Mindset

Lori discusses the significance of a growth mindset and the value of being open to learning from different perspectives. She shares her passion for exploring new places, cultures, and histories, highlighting the impact it has on her as a person.


00:19:43 - Building Resilient Communities

Lori emphasizes the importance of seeking support from friends, family, and professional help during challenging times. She also encourages listeners to find a sense of community, whether online or in person, and shares the purpose of the "Difference Makers" community.


00:21:40 - Finding Joy and Resilience

Lori discusses the concept of finding joy in memories as a way to process and build resilience during difficult times. She shares a personal joy memory and how it helps her navigate the pain and suffering in her life and encourages listeners to embrace challenges and cultivate resilience.



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Transcript
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Welcome to the a World of Difference

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podcast. I'm Lori Adams Brown, and this is

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a podcast for those who are different and

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want to make a difference. Many of you

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difference makers out there around the

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world are doing such amazing work, and I

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really hope that what I'm about to tell

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you will make a difference for you,

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because I know that resilience for leaders

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and difference makers is really key. And I

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have worked with a therapist at Betterhelp

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to try to build my own resilience in the

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face of life's many challenges, obstacles

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that are internal and external. And I want

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to let you know about a special offer for

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each of you listeners today. If you go to

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going to take for you to move forward in a

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healthier way. I hope that it will allow

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you to embrace a growth mindset, be open

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to new ways of living this human life in a

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way that's healthier for you because you

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matter. It's not just that the people

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around you that you're working to help

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build dignity and respect in their lives

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matter, but you also matter. And I know

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that self care, self compassion, self

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leadership can be one of the hardest

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things. So please go to www.betterhelp.com

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difference for 10% off your first month

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today. Welcome back, listeners, to another

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episode of a World of Difference. I'm your

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host, Lori Adams Brown, and today we're

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going to embark on a journey of self

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discovery and resilience in the faith of

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many life challenges and how travel,

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especially worldwide travel, can help us

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deal with our challenges around

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resilience. Many of you know that my work

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requires that I travel quite a bit for

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work globally and domestically in the

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United States. I'm currently in a hotel,

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traveling and recording this podcast. But

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I have noticed, and many of you may have

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noticed this yourselves, that when it

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things in our lives that keep us resilient

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in our day to day lives, where we live at

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home, can be routines that we set in place

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that help us. And that's its own

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challenge. But sometimes it can be

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additionally challenging when we are

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traveling, whether for work or family

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vacations or for just visiting family

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during holiday times or whatever that

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might be. I find that resilience when it

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comes to traveling, is a whole other

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situation. And so. So I thought we would

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just sit and talk about that a little bit

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today. Some tips and tricks that I have

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learned that help me some areas where I'm

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embracing a growth mindset and trying to

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understand what works for other people and

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learning from the rest of you. So I'm

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hoping this could be a little bit of a

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conversation today where we could engage

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and share tips with each other after this

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podcast of what's helping you and what

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might help others. And I'm just going to

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share a little bit about what I've learned

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in the process. Life really is a journey,

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and it's filled with twists and turns. And

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a lot of you could relate to the fact that

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I have experienced that sometimes life

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throws you curveballs, and resilience in

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those moments can be quite difficult.

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unexpected, whether that's welcoming a

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member into your family, that everything

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worked out a little differently than you

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kind of had expected. And resilience in

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those moments just means having to

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reevaluate. How am I walking through this

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season? How am I taking care of myself?

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difference around the world? And many of

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you are expats and moving countries, some

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of you have immigrated to a new country

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and have left a situation that's extremely

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difficult. And there's so much grief in

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all of that process. And caring for

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yourself really is something that I want

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to encourage you to prioritize because

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it's something I'm leaning into more and

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more because resilience is something that

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is cultivated in our lives, and a lot of

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what we face in the world is not going to

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help us do that on our own. It really is a

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proactive stance that we take to say we

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matter. And I want to just give you the

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freedom to tell yourself today that you

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matter, not just because you're caring for

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others and making a difference in the

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world, but because you are a human being

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who is worthy of dignity and respect, and

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in the same ways you're giving that to

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others, I want you to make sure you give

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that to yourself and practice self

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compassion. Be curious about yourself as

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you go through life. What worked in your

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teens and maybe your twenties is not going

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to necessarily work in your thirties,

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depending on your situation. And so

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staying curious as we grow and as we

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experience more of life and gain wisdom

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about ourselves in different situations,

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that's been my experience and that is what

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I want to share with you today, what's

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working for me and what I'm still in

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process with. So along the way, we

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encounter obstacles that test our strength

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and resolve. Don't we. But it's often in

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those moments of struggle that we discover

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the true depth of our resilience.

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Resilience isn't necessarily about

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avoiding adversity, because let's just be

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real. Life has pain and suffering in it.

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And if we ignore that, that's not

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increasing our resilience. It's only

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burying that deep inside our bodies in a

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way that it will spill out later through

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some unresolved grief. I was recently in

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Taiwan, and it's been the first time I've

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been back to Asia since before the COVID

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pandemic, when my family moved from

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Singapore to the US. And since I was 19, I

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had been making trips to Asia and college,

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and then eventually moved to Asia after my

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master's degree and spent 20 years living

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in ten in Indonesia and ten in Singapore.

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first time in a few years, it had been the

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longest chunk of me being outside of Asia

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since I'd been 19 years old. And it was an

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incredible work trip. I stayed in downtown

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Taipei. I enjoyed the food, the sights,

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the smells, the sounds. All of it felt so

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familiar, even though I'd never lived in

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Taiwan before. But there was something in

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my body that just felt at home. And I

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think that that's a conversation we need

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to have around resilience, because one of

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the things, I'm not a big crier for those

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of you that know me, you know that I don't

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really do that very often, but I found

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myself on the last day there, walking

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around Taipei, headed back to my hotel in

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downtown and about to get on the plane,

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and all of a sudden, I found myself kind

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of tearing up just walking around here at

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Taipei 101 and having had just a

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singaporean lunch at this delicious

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restaurant, um, called chope. I don't know

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if you've been to downtown Taipei, but it

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was fun to have some singaporean food. And

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I found a toast box, which is a

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singaporean kind of a breakfast or

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afternoon coffee kind of chain. And that

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was. Just had little merlions there. And

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I, you know, as I kind of left that

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started walking back to my hotel, I found

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myself kind of tearing up, and I thought,

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what is going on? Why am I crying? And I

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sort of just stayed curious and realized,

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you know, there's probably a lot of

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unresolved grief from the quick move from

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Singapore to the US COVID hitting life,

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just becoming a whirlwind. And so I'm sort

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of digging into that more with my

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therapist lately. Like, what are some

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areas of unresolved grief that I have. And

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it's a way for me to move forward in

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resilience, because the reality is, we're

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not robots. I tell people this all the

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time as I'm traveling around the world,

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training and leadership conferences where

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I'm developing our global leaders at our

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tech company, and we're involved in AI and

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our company here in my podcast, I use a

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lot of AI, and we'll be speaking at at

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Summit by the time this podcast release,

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it'll be that same day that I'm speaking

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at it. So I do use a lot of AI tools with

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both podcasting, and it's a part of the

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workplace where I work in tech, in Silicon

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Valley. But what I often tell our leaders

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is people ask me quite a bit, well, is AI

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going to take over our jobs? And I just

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constantly remind people, be human. Be a

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human leader. Be. Don't be the robots. Let

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the AI be AI, because it does it really

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well. But as long as we keep being human,

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which means kindness, compassion towards

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ourselves and others, that'll build not

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only our resilience for today and into the

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future, but it'll help us be the kind of

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leaders we want to be. We certainly want

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to be led by human leaders. One of the

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biggest reasons people leave their

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workplaces is because of a boss that's

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just really not kind or compassionate, or

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doesn't really want to develop people in

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their careers, isn't a good listener. All

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those things, like a boss, can really make

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or break your situation at work. And so I

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just want to encourage all of us to be

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human, which means staying curious when

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you're starting to tear up sometimes or

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feel something in your body that's, you

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know, not a typical response. And so, for

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me, resilience just means also recognizing

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that life has challenges, life has

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adversity, and building enough joy moments

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in my life that. That can build my

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resilience to handle the suffering and

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pain and adversity that comes my way. None

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of us gets through life without obstacles,

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both internal and external, to overcome.

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heads on, learning from them, and emerging

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stronger on the other side. You know, I'd

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encourage you to think back to a time when

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you faced a significant challenge or

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obstacle in your life. Maybe it was a

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personal loss, a career setback, or a

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health crisis. In those moments, it's

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natural to feel overwhelmed, afraid, or

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uncertain about the future. But it's also

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an opportunity for growth and

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transformation. If we allow it to be a

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teacher and help us grow in resilience.

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Resilience is the ability to adapt and

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bounce back from adversity. And it's about

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finding that inner strength, courage and

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optimism in the face of the adversity

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itself. And it's really a sort of a skill

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that can be cultivated and nurtured over

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time. So the question is, how do we

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cultivate resilience in our own lives?

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vulnerability and acknowledging our

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emotions. Those are things that have been

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very challenging for me and my

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personality. If you know, the enneagram,

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I'm an Enneagram eight. And one of the

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things we shy away from is vulnerability,

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but it's also the thing that if we do

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that, it allows us to lead in deeper and

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better ways. And so I have really leaned

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into that more over the years, even though

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it's not my comfort zone. And

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acknowledging emotions has been quite a

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bit of work for me. I'm one of those

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people. I can just lock it down, which I

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felt like even as I was in Taipei in

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that, you know, just pushing through,

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getting over jet lag. I have my tips and

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tricks of how I do that. If you're a world

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traveler like me. Um, I've discovered the

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beauty of melatonin, which is something

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that's naturally in our bodies, that

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causes us to sleep. And when our circadian

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rhythms get, you know, flipped and we're

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hours. Differences, right. Um, are we are.

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different parts of the day, we're

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expecting meals, and, you know, all that,

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you know, hydration to happen at different

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times of the day. So switching our

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circadian rhythms really requires quite a

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few things. And I've done a podcast before

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in the past on, you know, the tips and

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tricks I have for getting over jet lag. So

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you can certainly check that out.

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me, one of my kids. It makes them really

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drowsy, so they can't really use that. But

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there are all kinds of other ways. If

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there's sunshine in your location and

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you're lucky enough to arrive in a

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location where it's not raining and

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cloudy, the sunshine can really help just

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getting out and walking. There's also some

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studies that show just walking as its own

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version of resilience, even if it's in

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your home, in your own neighborhood.

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left to right. And if you're familiar at

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all with the EMDR method. It's a method of

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working through traumatic memories that

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does engage the left to right brain

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connections, and so moving eyes from left

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to right, even some brain spotting, if

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you've heard of that, is a therapy method

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that sort of involves that as well. But

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walking, we naturally do this bilateral

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movement with left and right feet taking

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steps, but we also look from left to

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right. And that really does things in the

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amygdala part of our brain, which allows

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us to process those traumatic memories and

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the heavy emotions involved in it and sort

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of regulate those in a better way. So even

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just taking walks in your neighborhood,

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especially if you're in a four season

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climate where there's spring flowers

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blooming about now, and you can literally

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smell the roses in your neighborhood and

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that kind of thing, it really does help

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with resilience, just that fresh air

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getting outside in nature. And if you're

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lucky enough to have a sunny day to do

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that, even better. But even if it's

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raining, there is going out with an

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umbrella, and being outside there is going

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to be a little bit of sunshine you're

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taking in. And not only is that good for

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the vitamin D, but also just getting that

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sunlight early in the morning in your eyes

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can really help regulate your circadian

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rhythms and get you on track in the new

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location. And I really find that

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resilience is hardest for me when I'm

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traveling, as much as I love to travel,

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and you know that I do, because this

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podcast is about the whole world and

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travel and making a difference for those

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of us working in different places around

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the world and bringing our perspectives.

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But not only do I travel for work, I

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travel for fun with my family. We like to

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go on vacations. We're going to Jamaica

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this summer. Last summer we went to Cancun

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in Mexico. And then I also do some

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traveling for speaking for this podcast.

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I've spoken at Podfest in Orlando. I've

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spoken at podcast movement evolutions

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twice in LA, but that's my same time zone,

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very close to where I live in Silicon

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Valley. And then I spoke last summer in

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Denver, and even those just a couple of

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hours difference. And I do have to work a

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little bit harder at resilience in those

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moments of travel and for work. And so I'd

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love to know your tips about how that

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works for you. Some things that I've

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discovered for myself is that even though

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I'm an extrovert, I do have to guard my

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time with other people, especially at

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conferences where I'm meeting so many

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people. And building relationships, which

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I get really energized. But then in order

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for me to sort of get enough rest and make

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sure I'm prepared for when I speak, I do

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have to sort of guard my time. And so I

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look at my schedule ahead of time, and I

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will have times where I plan meals, even

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in a local city with people I know. I've

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had times where I've had coffee with

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listeners of this podcast, which I

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recently got to do when I was in LA for

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podcast movement evolutions conference

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there in downtown LA at the JW Marriott LA

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Live. I had a few podcast listeners that

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came and had coffee with me, three

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different ones that I was able to put into

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the schedule, and it was the highlight of

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the conference. I really just absolutely

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love meeting each of you. I will be

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connecting with some in the UK when I'm

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there. And so if I'm ever traveling to any

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location, and you're a listener and you're

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in that area, reach out to me. Sometimes

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my schedule is too tight and I can't fit

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it in. But I do love to meet with

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listeners and hear about how this show has

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impacted you, because it's all about

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bringing different perspectives around the

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table. So even though I'm here on the

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microphone, one of my greatest joys, and

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really my why, is to hear your

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perspectives. And so that's sort of why I

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started this podcast and why I like

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interviewing different people. Um, but,

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yeah, traveling is its own area of

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resilience, which is sort of next level

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for me. And so if you're a person who

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travels for work or for fun or for

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speaking or for any other reason, and

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especially if you're crossing time zones,

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working on resilience for ourselves can

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get a little bit challenging. So sharing

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tips and trips is a lot of ways that I

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have learned from other people. So what

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I'm sharing with you about what I do are

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things that I've learned along the way

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from asking my friends, different expats,

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different tcKs, different people, you

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know, Singaporeans who traveled a lot for

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work, especially flight attendants with

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Singapore airlines, they all have their

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tips and tricks, right? So. So we get

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better together in this area, don't we?

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But really, I think that cultivating

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resilience, it starts by cultivating a

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growth mindset. And for me, a growth

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mindset has meant just being open to all

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the ways. I don't know a lot of things.

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It's also the point of this podcast as a

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growth mindset for me, but no one knows

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everything. We all have people in our

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lives that are know it alls. And I feel

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really sad for them because nobody knows

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it all. And the more you open your mind,

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not only in the area of resilience itself,

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but to life in general, there are so many

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different ways to live this human life.

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Every time I travel, I discover new ones,

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and it makes me a better person. I'm

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trying to be a kind of human that shows

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kindness and compassion to others,

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including to myself. And I learned so much

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from the history of places that I go. So

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I'm a bit of a history buff, and I love

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cultures. I have a master's in

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intercultural studies, many of you know,

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and then I also. I have a sociology and a

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spanish bachelor's degree. And I've

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learned to study and speak six languages

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in my career overseas for so many years

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and growing up overseas. And so when I go

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to a new place, I love to try the food. I

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love to hear about the stories, the

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history, the, you know, the mythology.

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Like any of it, I find it so fascinating

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because we all have different narratives

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that we've been brought up with,

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contribute to who we are today and how we

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build the societies that we do. And it's

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so fascinating for me, but it also helps

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me relativize my own experience of what

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I've been told about the world and how

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really, there's so many different

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narratives out there. And so I really

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enjoy hearing them from you as listeners

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and from the places that I visit. So if

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you have any place out there that you

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recommend that I travel to, also please

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let me know, because I'm always looking

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for new tips and tricks of places that

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have really impacted each of you and have

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formed who you are as a person. But, yeah,

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a growth mindset is really, I think, where

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it starts. So instead of viewing

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challenges as insurmountable obstacles, we

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can really see them as these chances to

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learn and grow in our personal

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development. But perhaps most importantly,

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resilience is really strengthened through

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our connection and our support. So whether

476
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it's leaning on friends and family during

477
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a season where there's illness, you've had

478
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a new baby or babies, in my case, where I

479
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had twins. Welcome to the family. I had a

480
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lot of people feed me meals when I gave

481
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birth to my twins in Nashville, Tennessee.

482
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So shout out to everyone who brought me

483
00:18:14,208 --> 00:18:16,264
meals during that time and helped me take

484
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my twins to full term and also was taking

485
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care of a wild and curious three year old

486
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at the time. Fortunately, my husband and I

487
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both had flexible work schedules during

488
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that time. But even with that we really

489
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relied on friends and family to get us

490
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through that season, both professionally

491
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and personally for us as a family and, you

492
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know, seeking professional help is a part

493
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of it. Therapy has just been a part of my

494
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life for many years. Just like I would

495
00:18:41,498 --> 00:18:44,170
take my car in for checkups, for oil

496
00:18:44,170 --> 00:18:45,974
checkups, I just always want to check in

497
00:18:45,974 --> 00:18:48,890
and process life because life just happens

498
00:18:48,890 --> 00:18:50,634
to us, right? We don't get through this

499
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life without some sort of obstacle,

500
00:18:53,274 --> 00:18:55,610
internal or external or both. And so

501
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seeking professional help or just finding

502
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solace in our community. And I know

503
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community can be really hard these days. I

504
00:19:01,550 --> 00:19:03,126
know listeners to this podcast, some of

505
00:19:03,126 --> 00:19:06,074
you are in really lonely situations. And

506
00:19:06,074 --> 00:19:09,310
so I do find that we can find a version of

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community online. And my favorite thing is

508
00:19:11,206 --> 00:19:13,302
to not only have people in this podcast

509
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that have discovered me through others

510
00:19:15,342 --> 00:19:18,254
that have shared it with people, through

511
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Twitter or X or Instagram, DM's or

512
00:19:21,134 --> 00:19:22,462
different ways that you've shared it with

513
00:19:22,462 --> 00:19:23,942
people, but it's also been fun to meet

514
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some of you in person. And once again,

515
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that's my why I really enjoy meeting

516
00:19:28,110 --> 00:19:29,662
listeners who reach out and are in places

517
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where I'm traveling. But we don't have to

518
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navigate life's challenges alone. And I

519
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hope that's what you hear today, is that

520
00:19:35,166 --> 00:19:37,902
you're not alone, whatever you're doing to

521
00:19:37,902 --> 00:19:40,634
make a difference out there or ways that

522
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you're longing for more community and

523
00:19:43,486 --> 00:19:45,134
connection. I hope that this podcast is a

524
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place where you feel seen and known, that

525
00:19:47,366 --> 00:19:49,414
each of your perspectives matters and that

526
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you matter. And I hope that you'll find

527
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listeners in this community that interact

528
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together. And once again, the difference

529
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maker community is a place where you can

530
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show up and comment on our different posts

531
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that are exclusive for the Patreon group,

532
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which is called Difference makers. You can

533
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find us@www.patreon.com aworldofdifference

534
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and I'll be posting just our April

535
00:20:12,846 --> 00:20:14,046
calendar and what we've put on just during

536
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the month of April. So you can see what

537
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happens on a typical month. Every month is

538
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a little bit different, but we have

539
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exclusive episodes with each of our guests

540
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that are only for the difference maker

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community. And you can pay as little as $5

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a month to join and get access to all the

543
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different content at that level. And we

544
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also give like kind of sneak information,

545
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sneak peeks into things we're doing. So

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you'll be seeing very soon that there's a

547
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giveaway coming up. The difference maker

548
00:20:39,992 --> 00:20:41,528
community was the first to kind of know

549
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about that, and so you'll get access to

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some things a little bit earlier than

551
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others, and it's just a place where you

552
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can interact around the different

553
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exclusive episodes by. You have access to

554
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dm me, for example, on the platform, as

555
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well as other listeners that you can

556
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interact with. And so we'd love to have

557
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you join. You can also join for free, but

558
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you won't get access to as many things as

559
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if you're one of the paid tiers. So we'd

560
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love to have you pop in there as well.

561
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It's a place to interact with others at

562
00:21:06,432 --> 00:21:07,632
different levels and would love to have

563
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you there. And especially if you're

564
00:21:09,488 --> 00:21:11,304
experiencing anything that any of these

565
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podcast episodes are addressing, would

566
00:21:13,136 --> 00:21:14,924
love to hear from you and your

567
00:21:14,924 --> 00:21:16,904
perspective. And as we journey through

568
00:21:16,904 --> 00:21:20,064
life, I just want to ask us to remember

569
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that resilience isn't just about

570
00:21:21,856 --> 00:21:24,108
weathering the storm. We have a lot of

571
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storms in our lives. If you're living in a

572
00:21:25,844 --> 00:21:27,452
place where you don't have storms, you've

573
00:21:27,452 --> 00:21:30,108
probably seen that on tv, whether it's a

574
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hurricane, a typhoon, lightning, thunder,

575
00:21:34,628 --> 00:21:37,836
stormy waves on the sea. But that may feel

576
00:21:37,836 --> 00:21:39,364
like what's going on in your life, that

577
00:21:39,364 --> 00:21:41,172
you're trying to weather a storm. And

578
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resilience isn't just about that. It's

579
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actually about learning to find joy, and

580
00:21:47,676 --> 00:21:50,372
find even joy memories in your own past

581
00:21:50,372 --> 00:21:51,996
that can help you walk through that

582
00:21:51,996 --> 00:21:53,876
resilience. It's almost like instead of

583
00:21:53,876 --> 00:21:56,228
weathering the storm, about dancing in the

584
00:21:56,228 --> 00:21:58,076
rain doesn't mean that you're unaware of

585
00:21:58,076 --> 00:22:00,620
the storm, but it means that you're

586
00:22:00,620 --> 00:22:02,588
processing whatever suffering you're going

587
00:22:02,588 --> 00:22:04,324
through, whatever pain you're

588
00:22:04,324 --> 00:22:06,604
experiencing, not pushing it away as if it

589
00:22:06,604 --> 00:22:09,220
doesn't exist, that you're fully

590
00:22:09,220 --> 00:22:11,404
understanding it and aware of it and

591
00:22:11,404 --> 00:22:13,092
processing it. But the way that you

592
00:22:13,092 --> 00:22:15,420
process it is by holding on to the joy

593
00:22:15,420 --> 00:22:16,820
memories that you have. And there's some

594
00:22:16,820 --> 00:22:19,384
research around how that does build

595
00:22:19,384 --> 00:22:22,362
resilience, building up in your mind and

596
00:22:22,362 --> 00:22:24,522
even writing down and thinking through

597
00:22:24,522 --> 00:22:26,826
some specific joy memories in your past

598
00:22:26,826 --> 00:22:28,970
where you can sit for a minute and

599
00:22:28,970 --> 00:22:30,922
meditation and really just remember the

600
00:22:30,922 --> 00:22:32,426
sights and the smells and the sounds of

601
00:22:32,426 --> 00:22:34,506
some of the joy memories in your life. One

602
00:22:34,506 --> 00:22:37,466
of my key joy memories is of being in

603
00:22:37,466 --> 00:22:39,106
Playuela, which is an island in Venezuela

604
00:22:39,106 --> 00:22:41,698
where I grew up, going quite often. It's

605
00:22:41,698 --> 00:22:43,810
also where my husband proposed to me, and

606
00:22:43,810 --> 00:22:46,074
also years later, we went to the same

607
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spot, and I was able to tell him we were

608
00:22:48,274 --> 00:22:51,442
expecting our first child. It's full of

609
00:22:51,442 --> 00:22:53,994
memories for me, of so much beauty and

610
00:22:53,994 --> 00:22:56,490
joy. In my life. And I can just recall

611
00:22:56,490 --> 00:22:59,306
that place and feel the powdery sand in my

612
00:22:59,306 --> 00:23:01,634
toes, and I can hear the wind blowing

613
00:23:01,634 --> 00:23:04,098
through the palm trees. I can hear the

614
00:23:04,098 --> 00:23:07,706
sound of the ice cream guy who was selling

615
00:23:07,706 --> 00:23:10,770
elao de coco and la concha, which is

616
00:23:10,770 --> 00:23:12,266
coconut ice cream, and the coconut shell

617
00:23:12,266 --> 00:23:14,850
that we would eat on the beach. I can feel

618
00:23:14,850 --> 00:23:17,010
the woven fabric of the hammock we would

619
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tie between two palm trees and take a

620
00:23:19,058 --> 00:23:22,138
siesta in. I can feel the warm, crystal

621
00:23:22,138 --> 00:23:24,082
clear waters of the Caribbean there that

622
00:23:24,082 --> 00:23:27,034
we would snorkel in and swim in. And years

623
00:23:27,034 --> 00:23:29,170
later, I was able to take my firstborn son

624
00:23:29,170 --> 00:23:31,146
there to swim in those waters as well,

625
00:23:31,146 --> 00:23:32,546
which was, unfortunately, the last time

626
00:23:32,546 --> 00:23:34,778
I've been, because Venezuela has been in a

627
00:23:34,778 --> 00:23:37,770
hard situation ever since. But it is a

628
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memory that brings me so much joy. So even

629
00:23:39,962 --> 00:23:41,770
when I think about the pain and suffering

630
00:23:41,770 --> 00:23:43,754
that's going on in Venezuela, which breaks

631
00:23:43,754 --> 00:23:46,962
my heart on a regular basis for my friends

632
00:23:46,962 --> 00:23:48,474
and community there, and so much they've

633
00:23:48,474 --> 00:23:51,336
suffered and faced, that joy, memory of

634
00:23:51,336 --> 00:23:53,872
the joy I had in that place is what helps

635
00:23:53,872 --> 00:23:56,912
me to process it. And it gives me

636
00:23:56,912 --> 00:23:58,560
resilience, even in my life today, for the

637
00:23:58,560 --> 00:24:01,192
things that I go through. So, yeah, I just

638
00:24:01,192 --> 00:24:03,296
want to encourage us to embrace those

639
00:24:03,296 --> 00:24:04,928
challenges, cultivate our resilience, and

640
00:24:04,928 --> 00:24:06,472
discover the strength and courage that

641
00:24:06,472 --> 00:24:08,184
lies within each of us. And I know that

642
00:24:08,184 --> 00:24:10,088
you have it. It's in there somewhere, and

643
00:24:10,088 --> 00:24:13,040
I want to call it out in you. So, yeah, I

644
00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:14,616
just want to say thank you so much for

645
00:24:14,616 --> 00:24:17,004
tuning into today's episode of a world of

646
00:24:17,004 --> 00:24:19,160
difference. I want you to remember that

647
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you matter, which means caring for

648
00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:23,240
yourself matters, and that cultivating

649
00:24:23,240 --> 00:24:25,128
resilience is something that I hope that

650
00:24:25,128 --> 00:24:27,816
you will prioritize for yourself, because

651
00:24:27,816 --> 00:24:30,224
not only do you deserve it, that human

652
00:24:30,224 --> 00:24:32,432
dignity and respect, but I know that as

653
00:24:32,432 --> 00:24:34,624
you do, that you will show others that

654
00:24:34,624 --> 00:24:36,688
they matter and deserve respect as well,

655
00:24:36,688 --> 00:24:37,920
because you're going to be modeling that

656
00:24:37,920 --> 00:24:39,952
for them, for your friends, for your

657
00:24:39,952 --> 00:24:41,824
family, for your colleagues, for everybody

658
00:24:41,824 --> 00:24:44,816
you're working with and your neighbors.

659
00:24:44,816 --> 00:24:46,776
There is something very powerful about

660
00:24:46,776 --> 00:24:49,336
seeing someone care for themselves that

661
00:24:49,336 --> 00:24:51,584
builds that kind of resilience in a world

662
00:24:51,584 --> 00:24:54,764
where we often are told to neglect

663
00:24:54,764 --> 00:24:59,648
ourselves at the expense of maybe a

664
00:24:59,648 --> 00:25:02,776
situation, building a company where you're

665
00:25:02,776 --> 00:25:05,752
an entrepreneur and you just go and go and

666
00:25:05,752 --> 00:25:08,704
go because you're working so hard, or

667
00:25:08,704 --> 00:25:10,296
you're starting a nonprofit in a place

668
00:25:10,296 --> 00:25:13,430
that it has a lot of need and you just

669
00:25:13,430 --> 00:25:16,078
feel guilty about taking care of yourself.

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So I just want to say that as you build

671
00:25:18,606 --> 00:25:20,454
resilience for yourself. Others will see

672
00:25:20,454 --> 00:25:22,686
that and it will show them and give them a

673
00:25:22,686 --> 00:25:25,222
permission to do that for themselves too

674
00:25:25,222 --> 00:25:28,438
and that is its own type of leadership and

675
00:25:28,438 --> 00:25:31,590
so yeah, but you deserve it. You deserve

676
00:25:31,590 --> 00:25:33,350
to cultivate resilience in your own life.

677
00:25:33,350 --> 00:25:36,166
Then I hope that you will let me know how

678
00:25:36,166 --> 00:25:37,646
you're doing that. Let me know any tips

679
00:25:37,646 --> 00:25:39,390
and tricks, especially for those of you

680
00:25:39,390 --> 00:25:41,286
who travel and are trying to build

681
00:25:41,286 --> 00:25:43,736
resilience for yourself as you travel and

682
00:25:43,736 --> 00:25:45,880
work through jetlag and show up to speak

683
00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:48,784
at events and conferences and all the

684
00:25:48,784 --> 00:25:50,480
things that you do and in the midst of it

685
00:25:50,480 --> 00:25:54,008
all do FaceTime calls with your family

686
00:25:54,008 --> 00:25:56,536
back home and try to keep all the things

687
00:25:56,536 --> 00:25:58,216
going. I'd love to hear how you're doing

688
00:25:58,216 --> 00:26:00,256
that for yourself and what's working for

689
00:26:00,256 --> 00:26:02,232
you and let's share some tips and tricks

690
00:26:02,232 --> 00:26:04,056
with each other. And in the meantime,

691
00:26:04,056 --> 00:26:06,736
until next time, remember to embrace your

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00:26:06,736 --> 00:26:09,624
resilience and keep shining bright, keep

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