Lori Adams-Brown on Learning to Dance in the Rain: Finding Joy and Resilience While Traveling

1
00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:04,462
Welcome to the a World of Difference

2
00:00:04,462 --> 00:00:06,662
podcast. I'm Lori Adams Brown, and this is

3
00:00:06,662 --> 00:00:08,582
a podcast for those who are different and

4
00:00:08,582 --> 00:00:12,118
want to make a difference. Many of you

5
00:00:12,118 --> 00:00:13,758
difference makers out there around the

6
00:00:13,758 --> 00:00:16,958
world are doing such amazing work, and I

7
00:00:16,958 --> 00:00:18,462
really hope that what I'm about to tell

8
00:00:18,462 --> 00:00:20,446
you will make a difference for you,

9
00:00:20,446 --> 00:00:23,390
because I know that resilience for leaders

10
00:00:23,390 --> 00:00:26,846
and difference makers is really key. And I

11
00:00:26,846 --> 00:00:29,110
have worked with a therapist at Betterhelp

12
00:00:29,110 --> 00:00:31,134
to try to build my own resilience in the

13
00:00:31,134 --> 00:00:33,822
face of life's many challenges, obstacles

14
00:00:33,822 --> 00:00:36,646
that are internal and external. And I want

15
00:00:36,646 --> 00:00:39,006
to let you know about a special offer for

16
00:00:39,006 --> 00:00:45,514
each of you listeners today. If you go to

17
00:00:45,514 --> 00:00:47,286
www.betterhelp.com difference, you'll get

18
00:00:47,286 --> 00:00:50,150
10% off your first month. And it's my gift

19
00:00:50,150 --> 00:00:53,038
to you to help you understand what it's

20
00:00:53,038 --> 00:00:55,022
going to take for you to move forward in a

21
00:00:55,022 --> 00:00:57,126
healthier way. I hope that it will allow

22
00:00:57,126 --> 00:00:59,454
you to embrace a growth mindset, be open

23
00:00:59,454 --> 00:01:01,926
to new ways of living this human life in a

24
00:01:01,926 --> 00:01:04,758
way that's healthier for you because you

25
00:01:04,758 --> 00:01:06,366
matter. It's not just that the people

26
00:01:06,366 --> 00:01:08,198
around you that you're working to help

27
00:01:08,198 --> 00:01:10,278
build dignity and respect in their lives

28
00:01:10,278 --> 00:01:12,294
matter, but you also matter. And I know

29
00:01:12,294 --> 00:01:15,094
that self care, self compassion, self

30
00:01:15,094 --> 00:01:16,422
leadership can be one of the hardest

31
00:01:16,422 --> 00:01:22,430
things. So please go to www.betterhelp.com

32
00:01:22,430 --> 00:01:24,790
difference for 10% off your first month

33
00:01:24,790 --> 00:01:27,678
today. Welcome back, listeners, to another

34
00:01:27,678 --> 00:01:29,734
episode of a World of Difference. I'm your

35
00:01:29,734 --> 00:01:32,414
host, Lori Adams Brown, and today we're

36
00:01:32,414 --> 00:01:34,798
going to embark on a journey of self

37
00:01:34,798 --> 00:01:37,262
discovery and resilience in the faith of

38
00:01:37,262 --> 00:01:41,110
many life challenges and how travel,

39
00:01:41,110 --> 00:01:44,358
especially worldwide travel, can help us

40
00:01:44,358 --> 00:01:47,054
deal with our challenges around

41
00:01:47,054 --> 00:01:49,926
resilience. Many of you know that my work

42
00:01:49,926 --> 00:01:52,874
requires that I travel quite a bit for

43
00:01:52,874 --> 00:01:55,670
work globally and domestically in the

44
00:01:55,670 --> 00:01:58,670
United States. I'm currently in a hotel,

45
00:01:58,670 --> 00:02:01,454
traveling and recording this podcast. But

46
00:02:01,454 --> 00:02:03,686
I have noticed, and many of you may have

47
00:02:03,686 --> 00:02:05,834
noticed this yourselves, that when it

48
00:02:05,834 --> 00:02:09,698
comes to the concept of resilience, doing

49
00:02:09,698 --> 00:02:11,786
things in our lives that keep us resilient

50
00:02:11,786 --> 00:02:13,730
in our day to day lives, where we live at

51
00:02:13,730 --> 00:02:15,666
home, can be routines that we set in place

52
00:02:15,666 --> 00:02:17,842
that help us. And that's its own

53
00:02:17,842 --> 00:02:19,986
challenge. But sometimes it can be

54
00:02:19,986 --> 00:02:21,594
additionally challenging when we are

55
00:02:21,594 --> 00:02:23,634
traveling, whether for work or family

56
00:02:23,634 --> 00:02:26,402
vacations or for just visiting family

57
00:02:26,402 --> 00:02:28,618
during holiday times or whatever that

58
00:02:28,618 --> 00:02:31,138
might be. I find that resilience when it

59
00:02:31,138 --> 00:02:34,002
comes to traveling, is a whole other

60
00:02:34,002 --> 00:02:36,576
situation. And so. So I thought we would

61
00:02:36,576 --> 00:02:38,304
just sit and talk about that a little bit

62
00:02:38,304 --> 00:02:40,144
today. Some tips and tricks that I have

63
00:02:40,144 --> 00:02:43,760
learned that help me some areas where I'm

64
00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:46,004
embracing a growth mindset and trying to

65
00:02:46,004 --> 00:02:48,304
understand what works for other people and

66
00:02:48,304 --> 00:02:50,000
learning from the rest of you. So I'm

67
00:02:50,000 --> 00:02:51,552
hoping this could be a little bit of a

68
00:02:51,552 --> 00:02:53,872
conversation today where we could engage

69
00:02:53,872 --> 00:02:56,448
and share tips with each other after this

70
00:02:56,448 --> 00:02:58,656
podcast of what's helping you and what

71
00:02:58,656 --> 00:03:00,176
might help others. And I'm just going to

72
00:03:00,176 --> 00:03:01,408
share a little bit about what I've learned

73
00:03:01,408 --> 00:03:08,934
in the process. Life really is a journey,

74
00:03:08,934 --> 00:03:10,686
and it's filled with twists and turns. And

75
00:03:10,686 --> 00:03:13,982
a lot of you could relate to the fact that

76
00:03:13,982 --> 00:03:16,126
I have experienced that sometimes life

77
00:03:16,126 --> 00:03:17,910
throws you curveballs, and resilience in

78
00:03:17,910 --> 00:03:19,734
those moments can be quite difficult.

79
00:03:19,734 --> 00:03:22,502
Whether that's a change of career that was

80
00:03:22,502 --> 00:03:24,278
unexpected, whether that's welcoming a

81
00:03:24,278 --> 00:03:26,510
member into your family, that everything

82
00:03:26,510 --> 00:03:27,790
worked out a little differently than you

83
00:03:27,790 --> 00:03:30,214
kind of had expected. And resilience in

84
00:03:30,214 --> 00:03:32,914
those moments just means having to

85
00:03:32,914 --> 00:03:35,740
reevaluate. How am I walking through this

86
00:03:35,740 --> 00:03:38,604
season? How am I taking care of myself?

87
00:03:38,604 --> 00:03:41,916
And as leaders, as people who are making a

88
00:03:41,916 --> 00:03:43,596
difference around the world? And many of

89
00:03:43,596 --> 00:03:46,356
you are expats and moving countries, some

90
00:03:46,356 --> 00:03:48,156
of you have immigrated to a new country

91
00:03:48,156 --> 00:03:50,588
and have left a situation that's extremely

92
00:03:50,588 --> 00:03:52,596
difficult. And there's so much grief in

93
00:03:52,596 --> 00:03:54,916
all of that process. And caring for

94
00:03:54,916 --> 00:03:56,836
yourself really is something that I want

95
00:03:56,836 --> 00:03:58,620
to encourage you to prioritize because

96
00:03:58,620 --> 00:04:00,732
it's something I'm leaning into more and

97
00:04:00,732 --> 00:04:03,940
more because resilience is something that

98
00:04:03,940 --> 00:04:06,212
is cultivated in our lives, and a lot of

99
00:04:06,212 --> 00:04:07,860
what we face in the world is not going to

100
00:04:07,860 --> 00:04:10,148
help us do that on our own. It really is a

101
00:04:10,148 --> 00:04:12,652
proactive stance that we take to say we

102
00:04:12,652 --> 00:04:14,276
matter. And I want to just give you the

103
00:04:14,276 --> 00:04:16,188
freedom to tell yourself today that you

104
00:04:16,188 --> 00:04:17,764
matter, not just because you're caring for

105
00:04:17,764 --> 00:04:19,300
others and making a difference in the

106
00:04:19,300 --> 00:04:21,396
world, but because you are a human being

107
00:04:21,396 --> 00:04:23,932
who is worthy of dignity and respect, and

108
00:04:23,932 --> 00:04:25,668
in the same ways you're giving that to

109
00:04:25,668 --> 00:04:26,996
others, I want you to make sure you give

110
00:04:26,996 --> 00:04:29,268
that to yourself and practice self

111
00:04:29,268 --> 00:04:32,180
compassion. Be curious about yourself as

112
00:04:32,180 --> 00:04:34,700
you go through life. What worked in your

113
00:04:34,700 --> 00:04:36,556
teens and maybe your twenties is not going

114
00:04:36,556 --> 00:04:38,340
to necessarily work in your thirties,

115
00:04:38,340 --> 00:04:40,580
depending on your situation. And so

116
00:04:40,580 --> 00:04:43,124
staying curious as we grow and as we

117
00:04:43,124 --> 00:04:44,660
experience more of life and gain wisdom

118
00:04:44,660 --> 00:04:46,516
about ourselves in different situations,

119
00:04:46,516 --> 00:04:48,588
that's been my experience and that is what

120
00:04:48,588 --> 00:04:49,988
I want to share with you today, what's

121
00:04:49,988 --> 00:04:51,596
working for me and what I'm still in

122
00:04:51,596 --> 00:04:54,524
process with. So along the way, we

123
00:04:54,524 --> 00:04:56,236
encounter obstacles that test our strength

124
00:04:56,236 --> 00:04:58,700
and resolve. Don't we. But it's often in

125
00:04:58,700 --> 00:05:00,516
those moments of struggle that we discover

126
00:05:00,516 --> 00:05:03,296
the true depth of our resilience.

127
00:05:03,296 --> 00:05:05,432
Resilience isn't necessarily about

128
00:05:05,432 --> 00:05:07,760
avoiding adversity, because let's just be

129
00:05:07,760 --> 00:05:09,928
real. Life has pain and suffering in it.

130
00:05:09,928 --> 00:05:11,792
And if we ignore that, that's not

131
00:05:11,792 --> 00:05:13,488
increasing our resilience. It's only

132
00:05:13,488 --> 00:05:15,472
burying that deep inside our bodies in a

133
00:05:15,472 --> 00:05:17,224
way that it will spill out later through

134
00:05:17,224 --> 00:05:20,648
some unresolved grief. I was recently in

135
00:05:20,648 --> 00:05:22,000
Taiwan, and it's been the first time I've

136
00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:25,320
been back to Asia since before the COVID

137
00:05:25,320 --> 00:05:27,152
pandemic, when my family moved from

138
00:05:27,152 --> 00:05:30,824
Singapore to the US. And since I was 19, I

139
00:05:30,824 --> 00:05:33,112
had been making trips to Asia and college,

140
00:05:33,112 --> 00:05:36,008
and then eventually moved to Asia after my

141
00:05:36,008 --> 00:05:38,648
master's degree and spent 20 years living

142
00:05:38,648 --> 00:05:41,440
in ten in Indonesia and ten in Singapore.

143
00:05:41,440 --> 00:05:43,904
And so this trip back to Asia for the

144
00:05:43,904 --> 00:05:46,800
first time in a few years, it had been the

145
00:05:46,800 --> 00:05:48,800
longest chunk of me being outside of Asia

146
00:05:48,800 --> 00:05:52,024
since I'd been 19 years old. And it was an

147
00:05:52,024 --> 00:05:54,232
incredible work trip. I stayed in downtown

148
00:05:54,232 --> 00:05:57,176
Taipei. I enjoyed the food, the sights,

149
00:05:57,176 --> 00:05:59,536
the smells, the sounds. All of it felt so

150
00:05:59,536 --> 00:06:01,080
familiar, even though I'd never lived in

151
00:06:01,080 --> 00:06:02,656
Taiwan before. But there was something in

152
00:06:02,656 --> 00:06:06,606
my body that just felt at home. And I

153
00:06:06,606 --> 00:06:08,086
think that that's a conversation we need

154
00:06:08,086 --> 00:06:09,766
to have around resilience, because one of

155
00:06:09,766 --> 00:06:11,462
the things, I'm not a big crier for those

156
00:06:11,462 --> 00:06:12,790
of you that know me, you know that I don't

157
00:06:12,790 --> 00:06:15,174
really do that very often, but I found

158
00:06:15,174 --> 00:06:16,710
myself on the last day there, walking

159
00:06:16,710 --> 00:06:19,514
around Taipei, headed back to my hotel in

160
00:06:19,514 --> 00:06:21,302
downtown and about to get on the plane,

161
00:06:21,302 --> 00:06:22,702
and all of a sudden, I found myself kind

162
00:06:22,702 --> 00:06:24,886
of tearing up just walking around here at

163
00:06:24,886 --> 00:06:27,870
Taipei 101 and having had just a

164
00:06:27,870 --> 00:06:29,788
singaporean lunch at this delicious

165
00:06:29,788 --> 00:06:31,416
restaurant, um, called chope. I don't know

166
00:06:31,416 --> 00:06:34,232
if you've been to downtown Taipei, but it

167
00:06:34,232 --> 00:06:35,808
was fun to have some singaporean food. And

168
00:06:35,808 --> 00:06:38,124
I found a toast box, which is a

169
00:06:38,124 --> 00:06:40,312
singaporean kind of a breakfast or

170
00:06:40,312 --> 00:06:42,576
afternoon coffee kind of chain. And that

171
00:06:42,576 --> 00:06:44,976
was. Just had little merlions there. And

172
00:06:44,976 --> 00:06:46,688
I, you know, as I kind of left that

173
00:06:46,688 --> 00:06:48,472
started walking back to my hotel, I found

174
00:06:48,472 --> 00:06:50,376
myself kind of tearing up, and I thought,

175
00:06:50,376 --> 00:06:52,512
what is going on? Why am I crying? And I

176
00:06:52,512 --> 00:06:54,688
sort of just stayed curious and realized,

177
00:06:54,688 --> 00:06:56,240
you know, there's probably a lot of

178
00:06:56,240 --> 00:06:58,464
unresolved grief from the quick move from

179
00:06:58,464 --> 00:07:00,504
Singapore to the US COVID hitting life,

180
00:07:00,504 --> 00:07:03,176
just becoming a whirlwind. And so I'm sort

181
00:07:03,176 --> 00:07:05,712
of digging into that more with my

182
00:07:05,712 --> 00:07:07,328
therapist lately. Like, what are some

183
00:07:07,328 --> 00:07:09,696
areas of unresolved grief that I have. And

184
00:07:09,696 --> 00:07:12,224
it's a way for me to move forward in

185
00:07:12,224 --> 00:07:14,528
resilience, because the reality is, we're

186
00:07:14,528 --> 00:07:16,184
not robots. I tell people this all the

187
00:07:16,184 --> 00:07:18,144
time as I'm traveling around the world,

188
00:07:18,144 --> 00:07:20,760
training and leadership conferences where

189
00:07:20,760 --> 00:07:22,400
I'm developing our global leaders at our

190
00:07:22,400 --> 00:07:25,344
tech company, and we're involved in AI and

191
00:07:25,344 --> 00:07:27,752
our company here in my podcast, I use a

192
00:07:27,752 --> 00:07:31,872
lot of AI, and we'll be speaking at at

193
00:07:31,872 --> 00:07:36,408
Podfest Masterclass AI and creator Tools

194
00:07:36,408 --> 00:07:38,640
Summit by the time this podcast release,

195
00:07:38,640 --> 00:07:40,456
it'll be that same day that I'm speaking

196
00:07:40,456 --> 00:07:43,264
at it. So I do use a lot of AI tools with

197
00:07:43,264 --> 00:07:46,248
both podcasting, and it's a part of the

198
00:07:46,248 --> 00:07:48,232
workplace where I work in tech, in Silicon

199
00:07:48,232 --> 00:07:50,644
Valley. But what I often tell our leaders

200
00:07:50,644 --> 00:07:53,192
is people ask me quite a bit, well, is AI

201
00:07:53,192 --> 00:07:55,960
going to take over our jobs? And I just

202
00:07:55,960 --> 00:07:58,232
constantly remind people, be human. Be a

203
00:07:58,232 --> 00:08:01,080
human leader. Be. Don't be the robots. Let

204
00:08:01,080 --> 00:08:03,328
the AI be AI, because it does it really

205
00:08:03,328 --> 00:08:05,624
well. But as long as we keep being human,

206
00:08:05,624 --> 00:08:07,832
which means kindness, compassion towards

207
00:08:07,832 --> 00:08:10,544
ourselves and others, that'll build not

208
00:08:10,544 --> 00:08:13,176
only our resilience for today and into the

209
00:08:13,176 --> 00:08:14,816
future, but it'll help us be the kind of

210
00:08:14,816 --> 00:08:16,408
leaders we want to be. We certainly want

211
00:08:16,408 --> 00:08:18,328
to be led by human leaders. One of the

212
00:08:18,328 --> 00:08:19,952
biggest reasons people leave their

213
00:08:19,952 --> 00:08:22,112
workplaces is because of a boss that's

214
00:08:22,112 --> 00:08:24,696
just really not kind or compassionate, or

215
00:08:24,696 --> 00:08:27,984
doesn't really want to develop people in

216
00:08:27,984 --> 00:08:29,880
their careers, isn't a good listener. All

217
00:08:29,880 --> 00:08:31,776
those things, like a boss, can really make

218
00:08:31,776 --> 00:08:34,928
or break your situation at work. And so I

219
00:08:34,928 --> 00:08:36,840
just want to encourage all of us to be

220
00:08:36,840 --> 00:08:39,040
human, which means staying curious when

221
00:08:39,040 --> 00:08:41,008
you're starting to tear up sometimes or

222
00:08:41,008 --> 00:08:43,456
feel something in your body that's, you

223
00:08:43,456 --> 00:08:46,680
know, not a typical response. And so, for

224
00:08:46,680 --> 00:08:50,080
me, resilience just means also recognizing

225
00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:52,448
that life has challenges, life has

226
00:08:52,448 --> 00:08:54,536
adversity, and building enough joy moments

227
00:08:54,536 --> 00:08:56,576
in my life that. That can build my

228
00:08:56,576 --> 00:08:58,016
resilience to handle the suffering and

229
00:08:58,016 --> 00:09:00,216
pain and adversity that comes my way. None

230
00:09:00,216 --> 00:09:02,568
of us gets through life without obstacles,

231
00:09:02,568 --> 00:09:04,728
both internal and external, to overcome.

232
00:09:04,728 --> 00:09:06,920
So it's about facing life's challenges

233
00:09:06,920 --> 00:09:09,096
heads on, learning from them, and emerging

234
00:09:09,096 --> 00:09:11,480
stronger on the other side. You know, I'd

235
00:09:11,480 --> 00:09:12,880
encourage you to think back to a time when

236
00:09:12,880 --> 00:09:15,824
you faced a significant challenge or

237
00:09:15,824 --> 00:09:17,832
obstacle in your life. Maybe it was a

238
00:09:17,832 --> 00:09:20,432
personal loss, a career setback, or a

239
00:09:20,432 --> 00:09:23,896
health crisis. In those moments, it's

240
00:09:23,896 --> 00:09:26,872
natural to feel overwhelmed, afraid, or

241
00:09:26,872 --> 00:09:28,680
uncertain about the future. But it's also

242
00:09:28,680 --> 00:09:31,016
an opportunity for growth and

243
00:09:31,016 --> 00:09:33,072
transformation. If we allow it to be a

244
00:09:33,072 --> 00:09:36,514
teacher and help us grow in resilience.

245
00:09:36,514 --> 00:09:38,778
Resilience is the ability to adapt and

246
00:09:38,778 --> 00:09:41,674
bounce back from adversity. And it's about

247
00:09:41,674 --> 00:09:44,890
finding that inner strength, courage and

248
00:09:44,890 --> 00:09:46,850
optimism in the face of the adversity

249
00:09:46,850 --> 00:09:48,706
itself. And it's really a sort of a skill

250
00:09:48,706 --> 00:09:50,978
that can be cultivated and nurtured over

251
00:09:50,978 --> 00:09:53,354
time. So the question is, how do we

252
00:09:53,354 --> 00:09:55,250
cultivate resilience in our own lives?

253
00:09:55,250 --> 00:09:57,914
Well, it really starts with embracing our

254
00:09:57,914 --> 00:09:59,934
vulnerability and acknowledging our

255
00:09:59,934 --> 00:10:02,054
emotions. Those are things that have been

256
00:10:02,054 --> 00:10:04,514
very challenging for me and my

257
00:10:04,514 --> 00:10:06,526
personality. If you know, the enneagram,

258
00:10:06,526 --> 00:10:08,198
I'm an Enneagram eight. And one of the

259
00:10:08,198 --> 00:10:12,046
things we shy away from is vulnerability,

260
00:10:12,046 --> 00:10:14,582
but it's also the thing that if we do

261
00:10:14,582 --> 00:10:16,998
that, it allows us to lead in deeper and

262
00:10:16,998 --> 00:10:18,918
better ways. And so I have really leaned

263
00:10:18,918 --> 00:10:20,830
into that more over the years, even though

264
00:10:20,830 --> 00:10:24,134
it's not my comfort zone. And

265
00:10:24,134 --> 00:10:25,462
acknowledging emotions has been quite a

266
00:10:25,462 --> 00:10:27,342
bit of work for me. I'm one of those

267
00:10:27,342 --> 00:10:29,766
people. I can just lock it down, which I

268
00:10:29,766 --> 00:10:32,454
felt like even as I was in Taipei in

269
00:10:32,454 --> 00:10:34,574
March, I, early March, I was sort of doing

270
00:10:34,574 --> 00:10:36,190
that, you know, just pushing through,

271
00:10:36,190 --> 00:10:38,406
getting over jet lag. I have my tips and

272
00:10:38,406 --> 00:10:40,878
tricks of how I do that. If you're a world

273
00:10:40,878 --> 00:10:43,390
traveler like me. Um, I've discovered the

274
00:10:43,390 --> 00:10:45,086
beauty of melatonin, which is something

275
00:10:45,086 --> 00:10:46,454
that's naturally in our bodies, that

276
00:10:46,454 --> 00:10:48,822
causes us to sleep. And when our circadian

277
00:10:48,822 --> 00:10:52,446
rhythms get, you know, flipped and we're

278
00:10:52,446 --> 00:10:55,454
in a completely opposite time zone. 1215

279
00:10:55,454 --> 00:10:58,752
hours. Differences, right. Um, are we are.

280
00:10:58,752 --> 00:11:00,408
Our body is expecting sunshine at

281
00:11:00,408 --> 00:11:01,848
different parts of the day, we're

282
00:11:01,848 --> 00:11:04,432
expecting meals, and, you know, all that,

283
00:11:04,432 --> 00:11:06,160
you know, hydration to happen at different

284
00:11:06,160 --> 00:11:07,728
times of the day. So switching our

285
00:11:07,728 --> 00:11:09,800
circadian rhythms really requires quite a

286
00:11:09,800 --> 00:11:12,048
few things. And I've done a podcast before

287
00:11:12,048 --> 00:11:14,856
in the past on, you know, the tips and

288
00:11:14,856 --> 00:11:16,288
tricks I have for getting over jet lag. So

289
00:11:16,288 --> 00:11:18,296
you can certainly check that out.

290
00:11:18,296 --> 00:11:19,792
Melatonin is something that's worked for

291
00:11:19,792 --> 00:11:21,528
me, one of my kids. It makes them really

292
00:11:21,528 --> 00:11:23,328
drowsy, so they can't really use that. But

293
00:11:23,328 --> 00:11:24,744
there are all kinds of other ways. If

294
00:11:24,744 --> 00:11:26,496
there's sunshine in your location and

295
00:11:26,496 --> 00:11:28,312
you're lucky enough to arrive in a

296
00:11:28,312 --> 00:11:30,244
location where it's not raining and

297
00:11:30,244 --> 00:11:32,704
cloudy, the sunshine can really help just

298
00:11:32,704 --> 00:11:35,648
getting out and walking. There's also some

299
00:11:35,648 --> 00:11:38,760
studies that show just walking as its own

300
00:11:38,760 --> 00:11:40,480
version of resilience, even if it's in

301
00:11:40,480 --> 00:11:42,784
your home, in your own neighborhood.

302
00:11:42,784 --> 00:11:44,960
Because when we walk, our eyes go from

303
00:11:44,960 --> 00:11:46,808
left to right. And if you're familiar at

304
00:11:46,808 --> 00:11:49,816
all with the EMDR method. It's a method of

305
00:11:49,816 --> 00:11:52,648
working through traumatic memories that

306
00:11:52,648 --> 00:11:55,656
does engage the left to right brain

307
00:11:55,656 --> 00:11:58,024
connections, and so moving eyes from left

308
00:11:58,024 --> 00:12:00,176
to right, even some brain spotting, if

309
00:12:00,176 --> 00:12:01,896
you've heard of that, is a therapy method

310
00:12:01,896 --> 00:12:04,384
that sort of involves that as well. But

311
00:12:04,384 --> 00:12:06,344
walking, we naturally do this bilateral

312
00:12:06,344 --> 00:12:08,800
movement with left and right feet taking

313
00:12:08,800 --> 00:12:10,792
steps, but we also look from left to

314
00:12:10,792 --> 00:12:12,944
right. And that really does things in the

315
00:12:12,944 --> 00:12:14,352
amygdala part of our brain, which allows

316
00:12:14,352 --> 00:12:16,736
us to process those traumatic memories and

317
00:12:16,736 --> 00:12:18,760
the heavy emotions involved in it and sort

318
00:12:18,760 --> 00:12:20,984
of regulate those in a better way. So even

319
00:12:20,984 --> 00:12:23,144
just taking walks in your neighborhood,

320
00:12:23,144 --> 00:12:24,952
especially if you're in a four season

321
00:12:24,952 --> 00:12:26,456
climate where there's spring flowers

322
00:12:26,456 --> 00:12:28,560
blooming about now, and you can literally

323
00:12:28,560 --> 00:12:30,256
smell the roses in your neighborhood and

324
00:12:30,256 --> 00:12:32,766
that kind of thing, it really does help

325
00:12:32,766 --> 00:12:34,734
with resilience, just that fresh air

326
00:12:34,734 --> 00:12:36,206
getting outside in nature. And if you're

327
00:12:36,206 --> 00:12:38,022
lucky enough to have a sunny day to do

328
00:12:38,022 --> 00:12:40,030
that, even better. But even if it's

329
00:12:40,030 --> 00:12:42,934
raining, there is going out with an

330
00:12:42,934 --> 00:12:44,582
umbrella, and being outside there is going

331
00:12:44,582 --> 00:12:45,982
to be a little bit of sunshine you're

332
00:12:45,982 --> 00:12:47,806
taking in. And not only is that good for

333
00:12:47,806 --> 00:12:51,270
the vitamin D, but also just getting that

334
00:12:51,270 --> 00:12:53,110
sunlight early in the morning in your eyes

335
00:12:53,110 --> 00:12:55,718
can really help regulate your circadian

336
00:12:55,718 --> 00:12:57,742
rhythms and get you on track in the new

337
00:12:57,742 --> 00:12:59,740
location. And I really find that

338
00:12:59,740 --> 00:13:01,612
resilience is hardest for me when I'm

339
00:13:01,612 --> 00:13:02,972
traveling, as much as I love to travel,

340
00:13:02,972 --> 00:13:04,604
and you know that I do, because this

341
00:13:04,604 --> 00:13:07,628
podcast is about the whole world and

342
00:13:07,628 --> 00:13:09,156
travel and making a difference for those

343
00:13:09,156 --> 00:13:10,836
of us working in different places around

344
00:13:10,836 --> 00:13:13,716
the world and bringing our perspectives.

345
00:13:13,716 --> 00:13:15,380
But not only do I travel for work, I

346
00:13:15,380 --> 00:13:17,348
travel for fun with my family. We like to

347
00:13:17,348 --> 00:13:19,020
go on vacations. We're going to Jamaica

348
00:13:19,020 --> 00:13:21,844
this summer. Last summer we went to Cancun

349
00:13:21,844 --> 00:13:25,108
in Mexico. And then I also do some

350
00:13:25,108 --> 00:13:26,900
traveling for speaking for this podcast.

351
00:13:26,900 --> 00:13:29,894
I've spoken at Podfest in Orlando. I've

352
00:13:29,894 --> 00:13:32,422
spoken at podcast movement evolutions

353
00:13:32,422 --> 00:13:35,174
twice in LA, but that's my same time zone,

354
00:13:35,174 --> 00:13:36,814
very close to where I live in Silicon

355
00:13:36,814 --> 00:13:38,710
Valley. And then I spoke last summer in

356
00:13:38,710 --> 00:13:40,606
Denver, and even those just a couple of

357
00:13:40,606 --> 00:13:42,782
hours difference. And I do have to work a

358
00:13:42,782 --> 00:13:44,582
little bit harder at resilience in those

359
00:13:44,582 --> 00:13:46,510
moments of travel and for work. And so I'd

360
00:13:46,510 --> 00:13:48,550
love to know your tips about how that

361
00:13:48,550 --> 00:13:50,366
works for you. Some things that I've

362
00:13:50,366 --> 00:13:52,126
discovered for myself is that even though

363
00:13:52,126 --> 00:13:54,078
I'm an extrovert, I do have to guard my

364
00:13:54,078 --> 00:13:56,326
time with other people, especially at

365
00:13:56,326 --> 00:13:57,606
conferences where I'm meeting so many

366
00:13:57,606 --> 00:13:59,302
people. And building relationships, which

367
00:13:59,302 --> 00:14:01,686
I get really energized. But then in order

368
00:14:01,686 --> 00:14:03,670
for me to sort of get enough rest and make

369
00:14:03,670 --> 00:14:06,742
sure I'm prepared for when I speak, I do

370
00:14:06,742 --> 00:14:08,526
have to sort of guard my time. And so I

371
00:14:08,526 --> 00:14:11,182
look at my schedule ahead of time, and I

372
00:14:11,182 --> 00:14:13,342
will have times where I plan meals, even

373
00:14:13,342 --> 00:14:15,550
in a local city with people I know. I've

374
00:14:15,550 --> 00:14:17,462
had times where I've had coffee with

375
00:14:17,462 --> 00:14:18,902
listeners of this podcast, which I

376
00:14:18,902 --> 00:14:21,918
recently got to do when I was in LA for

377
00:14:21,918 --> 00:14:23,646
podcast movement evolutions conference

378
00:14:23,646 --> 00:14:26,634
there in downtown LA at the JW Marriott LA

379
00:14:26,634 --> 00:14:29,390
Live. I had a few podcast listeners that

380
00:14:29,390 --> 00:14:30,758
came and had coffee with me, three

381
00:14:30,758 --> 00:14:32,790
different ones that I was able to put into

382
00:14:32,790 --> 00:14:34,686
the schedule, and it was the highlight of

383
00:14:34,686 --> 00:14:37,118
the conference. I really just absolutely

384
00:14:37,118 --> 00:14:40,950
love meeting each of you. I will be

385
00:14:40,950 --> 00:14:42,894
connecting with some in the UK when I'm

386
00:14:42,894 --> 00:14:45,414
there. And so if I'm ever traveling to any

387
00:14:45,414 --> 00:14:46,782
location, and you're a listener and you're

388
00:14:46,782 --> 00:14:48,916
in that area, reach out to me. Sometimes

389
00:14:48,916 --> 00:14:50,332
my schedule is too tight and I can't fit

390
00:14:50,332 --> 00:14:52,220
it in. But I do love to meet with

391
00:14:52,220 --> 00:14:53,980
listeners and hear about how this show has

392
00:14:53,980 --> 00:14:55,980
impacted you, because it's all about

393
00:14:55,980 --> 00:14:57,356
bringing different perspectives around the

394
00:14:57,356 --> 00:14:59,604
table. So even though I'm here on the

395
00:14:59,604 --> 00:15:01,292
microphone, one of my greatest joys, and

396
00:15:01,292 --> 00:15:03,676
really my why, is to hear your

397
00:15:03,676 --> 00:15:04,924
perspectives. And so that's sort of why I

398
00:15:04,924 --> 00:15:06,580
started this podcast and why I like

399
00:15:06,580 --> 00:15:08,916
interviewing different people. Um, but,

400
00:15:08,916 --> 00:15:11,228
yeah, traveling is its own area of

401
00:15:11,228 --> 00:15:12,780
resilience, which is sort of next level

402
00:15:12,780 --> 00:15:14,508
for me. And so if you're a person who

403
00:15:14,508 --> 00:15:16,642
travels for work or for fun or for

404
00:15:16,642 --> 00:15:18,698
speaking or for any other reason, and

405
00:15:18,698 --> 00:15:20,338
especially if you're crossing time zones,

406
00:15:20,338 --> 00:15:22,546
working on resilience for ourselves can

407
00:15:22,546 --> 00:15:24,202
get a little bit challenging. So sharing

408
00:15:24,202 --> 00:15:27,378
tips and trips is a lot of ways that I

409
00:15:27,378 --> 00:15:28,890
have learned from other people. So what

410
00:15:28,890 --> 00:15:30,954
I'm sharing with you about what I do are

411
00:15:30,954 --> 00:15:32,354
things that I've learned along the way

412
00:15:32,354 --> 00:15:34,498
from asking my friends, different expats,

413
00:15:34,498 --> 00:15:36,626
different tcKs, different people, you

414
00:15:36,626 --> 00:15:38,402
know, Singaporeans who traveled a lot for

415
00:15:38,402 --> 00:15:40,074
work, especially flight attendants with

416
00:15:40,074 --> 00:15:41,282
Singapore airlines, they all have their

417
00:15:41,282 --> 00:15:44,134
tips and tricks, right? So. So we get

418
00:15:44,134 --> 00:15:46,710
better together in this area, don't we?

419
00:15:46,710 --> 00:15:50,342
But really, I think that cultivating

420
00:15:50,342 --> 00:15:52,326
resilience, it starts by cultivating a

421
00:15:52,326 --> 00:15:54,518
growth mindset. And for me, a growth

422
00:15:54,518 --> 00:15:56,926
mindset has meant just being open to all

423
00:15:56,926 --> 00:16:00,278
the ways. I don't know a lot of things.

424
00:16:00,278 --> 00:16:02,182
It's also the point of this podcast as a

425
00:16:02,182 --> 00:16:05,246
growth mindset for me, but no one knows

426
00:16:05,246 --> 00:16:06,790
everything. We all have people in our

427
00:16:06,790 --> 00:16:08,694
lives that are know it alls. And I feel

428
00:16:08,694 --> 00:16:10,726
really sad for them because nobody knows

429
00:16:10,726 --> 00:16:13,330
it all. And the more you open your mind,

430
00:16:13,330 --> 00:16:15,322
not only in the area of resilience itself,

431
00:16:15,322 --> 00:16:17,498
but to life in general, there are so many

432
00:16:17,498 --> 00:16:19,570
different ways to live this human life.

433
00:16:19,570 --> 00:16:21,642
Every time I travel, I discover new ones,

434
00:16:21,642 --> 00:16:24,378
and it makes me a better person. I'm

435
00:16:24,378 --> 00:16:27,730
trying to be a kind of human that shows

436
00:16:27,730 --> 00:16:29,306
kindness and compassion to others,

437
00:16:29,306 --> 00:16:31,842
including to myself. And I learned so much

438
00:16:31,842 --> 00:16:34,522
from the history of places that I go. So

439
00:16:34,522 --> 00:16:36,546
I'm a bit of a history buff, and I love

440
00:16:36,546 --> 00:16:37,858
cultures. I have a master's in

441
00:16:37,858 --> 00:16:39,202
intercultural studies, many of you know,

442
00:16:39,202 --> 00:16:42,058
and then I also. I have a sociology and a

443
00:16:42,058 --> 00:16:44,250
spanish bachelor's degree. And I've

444
00:16:44,250 --> 00:16:46,602
learned to study and speak six languages

445
00:16:46,602 --> 00:16:50,306
in my career overseas for so many years

446
00:16:50,306 --> 00:16:52,682
and growing up overseas. And so when I go

447
00:16:52,682 --> 00:16:54,970
to a new place, I love to try the food. I

448
00:16:54,970 --> 00:16:57,778
love to hear about the stories, the

449
00:16:57,778 --> 00:17:00,434
history, the, you know, the mythology.

450
00:17:00,434 --> 00:17:02,642
Like any of it, I find it so fascinating

451
00:17:02,642 --> 00:17:04,722
because we all have different narratives

452
00:17:04,722 --> 00:17:07,159
that we've been brought up with,

453
00:17:07,159 --> 00:17:08,535
contribute to who we are today and how we

454
00:17:08,535 --> 00:17:11,983
build the societies that we do. And it's

455
00:17:11,983 --> 00:17:14,079
so fascinating for me, but it also helps

456
00:17:14,079 --> 00:17:16,463
me relativize my own experience of what

457
00:17:16,463 --> 00:17:19,023
I've been told about the world and how

458
00:17:19,023 --> 00:17:20,367
really, there's so many different

459
00:17:20,367 --> 00:17:21,727
narratives out there. And so I really

460
00:17:21,727 --> 00:17:23,471
enjoy hearing them from you as listeners

461
00:17:23,471 --> 00:17:25,487
and from the places that I visit. So if

462
00:17:25,487 --> 00:17:27,039
you have any place out there that you

463
00:17:27,039 --> 00:17:28,775
recommend that I travel to, also please

464
00:17:28,775 --> 00:17:30,847
let me know, because I'm always looking

465
00:17:30,847 --> 00:17:33,316
for new tips and tricks of places that

466
00:17:33,316 --> 00:17:35,668
have really impacted each of you and have

467
00:17:35,668 --> 00:17:37,772
formed who you are as a person. But, yeah,

468
00:17:37,772 --> 00:17:39,236
a growth mindset is really, I think, where

469
00:17:39,236 --> 00:17:40,844
it starts. So instead of viewing

470
00:17:40,844 --> 00:17:43,196
challenges as insurmountable obstacles, we

471
00:17:43,196 --> 00:17:47,372
can really see them as these chances to

472
00:17:47,372 --> 00:17:49,944
learn and grow in our personal

473
00:17:49,944 --> 00:17:53,364
development. But perhaps most importantly,

474
00:17:53,364 --> 00:17:54,980
resilience is really strengthened through

475
00:17:54,980 --> 00:17:57,356
our connection and our support. So whether

476
00:17:57,356 --> 00:17:59,460
it's leaning on friends and family during

477
00:17:59,460 --> 00:18:01,652
a season where there's illness, you've had

478
00:18:01,652 --> 00:18:04,600
a new baby or babies, in my case, where I

479
00:18:04,600 --> 00:18:07,232
had twins. Welcome to the family. I had a

480
00:18:07,232 --> 00:18:09,816
lot of people feed me meals when I gave

481
00:18:09,816 --> 00:18:11,768
birth to my twins in Nashville, Tennessee.

482
00:18:11,768 --> 00:18:14,208
So shout out to everyone who brought me

483
00:18:14,208 --> 00:18:16,264
meals during that time and helped me take

484
00:18:16,264 --> 00:18:19,352
my twins to full term and also was taking

485
00:18:19,352 --> 00:18:21,688
care of a wild and curious three year old

486
00:18:21,688 --> 00:18:24,424
at the time. Fortunately, my husband and I

487
00:18:24,424 --> 00:18:26,136
both had flexible work schedules during

488
00:18:26,136 --> 00:18:27,880
that time. But even with that we really

489
00:18:27,880 --> 00:18:29,384
relied on friends and family to get us

490
00:18:29,384 --> 00:18:31,384
through that season, both professionally

491
00:18:31,384 --> 00:18:34,410
and personally for us as a family and, you

492
00:18:34,410 --> 00:18:36,162
know, seeking professional help is a part

493
00:18:36,162 --> 00:18:38,706
of it. Therapy has just been a part of my

494
00:18:38,706 --> 00:18:41,498
life for many years. Just like I would

495
00:18:41,498 --> 00:18:44,170
take my car in for checkups, for oil

496
00:18:44,170 --> 00:18:45,974
checkups, I just always want to check in

497
00:18:45,974 --> 00:18:48,890
and process life because life just happens

498
00:18:48,890 --> 00:18:50,634
to us, right? We don't get through this

499
00:18:50,634 --> 00:18:53,274
life without some sort of obstacle,

500
00:18:53,274 --> 00:18:55,610
internal or external or both. And so

501
00:18:55,610 --> 00:18:57,554
seeking professional help or just finding

502
00:18:57,554 --> 00:18:59,950
solace in our community. And I know

503
00:18:59,950 --> 00:19:01,550
community can be really hard these days. I

504
00:19:01,550 --> 00:19:03,126
know listeners to this podcast, some of

505
00:19:03,126 --> 00:19:06,074
you are in really lonely situations. And

506
00:19:06,074 --> 00:19:09,310
so I do find that we can find a version of

507
00:19:09,310 --> 00:19:11,206
community online. And my favorite thing is

508
00:19:11,206 --> 00:19:13,302
to not only have people in this podcast

509
00:19:13,302 --> 00:19:15,342
that have discovered me through others

510
00:19:15,342 --> 00:19:18,254
that have shared it with people, through

511
00:19:18,254 --> 00:19:21,134
Twitter or X or Instagram, DM's or

512
00:19:21,134 --> 00:19:22,462
different ways that you've shared it with

513
00:19:22,462 --> 00:19:23,942
people, but it's also been fun to meet

514
00:19:23,942 --> 00:19:25,630
some of you in person. And once again,

515
00:19:25,630 --> 00:19:28,110
that's my why I really enjoy meeting

516
00:19:28,110 --> 00:19:29,662
listeners who reach out and are in places

517
00:19:29,662 --> 00:19:32,286
where I'm traveling. But we don't have to

518
00:19:32,286 --> 00:19:33,766
navigate life's challenges alone. And I

519
00:19:33,766 --> 00:19:35,166
hope that's what you hear today, is that

520
00:19:35,166 --> 00:19:37,902
you're not alone, whatever you're doing to

521
00:19:37,902 --> 00:19:40,634
make a difference out there or ways that

522
00:19:40,634 --> 00:19:43,486
you're longing for more community and

523
00:19:43,486 --> 00:19:45,134
connection. I hope that this podcast is a

524
00:19:45,134 --> 00:19:47,366
place where you feel seen and known, that

525
00:19:47,366 --> 00:19:49,414
each of your perspectives matters and that

526
00:19:49,414 --> 00:19:52,606
you matter. And I hope that you'll find

527
00:19:52,606 --> 00:19:54,486
listeners in this community that interact

528
00:19:54,486 --> 00:19:56,870
together. And once again, the difference

529
00:19:56,870 --> 00:19:58,438
maker community is a place where you can

530
00:19:58,438 --> 00:20:01,302
show up and comment on our different posts

531
00:20:01,302 --> 00:20:03,342
that are exclusive for the Patreon group,

532
00:20:03,342 --> 00:20:05,374
which is called Difference makers. You can

533
00:20:05,374 --> 00:20:10,534
find us@www.patreon.com aworldofdifference

534
00:20:10,534 --> 00:20:12,846
and I'll be posting just our April

535
00:20:12,846 --> 00:20:14,046
calendar and what we've put on just during

536
00:20:14,046 --> 00:20:15,734
the month of April. So you can see what

537
00:20:15,734 --> 00:20:18,078
happens on a typical month. Every month is

538
00:20:18,078 --> 00:20:19,998
a little bit different, but we have

539
00:20:19,998 --> 00:20:21,542
exclusive episodes with each of our guests

540
00:20:21,542 --> 00:20:23,524
that are only for the difference maker

541
00:20:23,524 --> 00:20:26,256
community. And you can pay as little as $5

542
00:20:26,256 --> 00:20:28,088
a month to join and get access to all the

543
00:20:28,088 --> 00:20:31,448
different content at that level. And we

544
00:20:31,448 --> 00:20:34,000
also give like kind of sneak information,

545
00:20:34,000 --> 00:20:35,776
sneak peeks into things we're doing. So

546
00:20:35,776 --> 00:20:38,328
you'll be seeing very soon that there's a

547
00:20:38,328 --> 00:20:39,992
giveaway coming up. The difference maker

548
00:20:39,992 --> 00:20:41,528
community was the first to kind of know

549
00:20:41,528 --> 00:20:43,120
about that, and so you'll get access to

550
00:20:43,120 --> 00:20:44,864
some things a little bit earlier than

551
00:20:44,864 --> 00:20:46,480
others, and it's just a place where you

552
00:20:46,480 --> 00:20:48,392
can interact around the different

553
00:20:48,392 --> 00:20:51,328
exclusive episodes by. You have access to

554
00:20:51,328 --> 00:20:53,688
dm me, for example, on the platform, as

555
00:20:53,688 --> 00:20:55,408
well as other listeners that you can

556
00:20:55,408 --> 00:20:57,032
interact with. And so we'd love to have

557
00:20:57,032 --> 00:20:59,648
you join. You can also join for free, but

558
00:20:59,648 --> 00:21:01,312
you won't get access to as many things as

559
00:21:01,312 --> 00:21:03,216
if you're one of the paid tiers. So we'd

560
00:21:03,216 --> 00:21:04,632
love to have you pop in there as well.

561
00:21:04,632 --> 00:21:06,432
It's a place to interact with others at

562
00:21:06,432 --> 00:21:07,632
different levels and would love to have

563
00:21:07,632 --> 00:21:09,488
you there. And especially if you're

564
00:21:09,488 --> 00:21:11,304
experiencing anything that any of these

565
00:21:11,304 --> 00:21:13,136
podcast episodes are addressing, would

566
00:21:13,136 --> 00:21:14,924
love to hear from you and your

567
00:21:14,924 --> 00:21:16,904
perspective. And as we journey through

568
00:21:16,904 --> 00:21:20,064
life, I just want to ask us to remember

569
00:21:20,064 --> 00:21:21,856
that resilience isn't just about

570
00:21:21,856 --> 00:21:24,108
weathering the storm. We have a lot of

571
00:21:24,108 --> 00:21:25,844
storms in our lives. If you're living in a

572
00:21:25,844 --> 00:21:27,452
place where you don't have storms, you've

573
00:21:27,452 --> 00:21:30,108
probably seen that on tv, whether it's a

574
00:21:30,108 --> 00:21:34,628
hurricane, a typhoon, lightning, thunder,

575
00:21:34,628 --> 00:21:37,836
stormy waves on the sea. But that may feel

576
00:21:37,836 --> 00:21:39,364
like what's going on in your life, that

577
00:21:39,364 --> 00:21:41,172
you're trying to weather a storm. And

578
00:21:41,172 --> 00:21:43,124
resilience isn't just about that. It's

579
00:21:43,124 --> 00:21:47,676
actually about learning to find joy, and

580
00:21:47,676 --> 00:21:50,372
find even joy memories in your own past

581
00:21:50,372 --> 00:21:51,996
that can help you walk through that

582
00:21:51,996 --> 00:21:53,876
resilience. It's almost like instead of

583
00:21:53,876 --> 00:21:56,228
weathering the storm, about dancing in the

584
00:21:56,228 --> 00:21:58,076
rain doesn't mean that you're unaware of

585
00:21:58,076 --> 00:22:00,620
the storm, but it means that you're

586
00:22:00,620 --> 00:22:02,588
processing whatever suffering you're going

587
00:22:02,588 --> 00:22:04,324
through, whatever pain you're

588
00:22:04,324 --> 00:22:06,604
experiencing, not pushing it away as if it

589
00:22:06,604 --> 00:22:09,220
doesn't exist, that you're fully

590
00:22:09,220 --> 00:22:11,404
understanding it and aware of it and

591
00:22:11,404 --> 00:22:13,092
processing it. But the way that you

592
00:22:13,092 --> 00:22:15,420
process it is by holding on to the joy

593
00:22:15,420 --> 00:22:16,820
memories that you have. And there's some

594
00:22:16,820 --> 00:22:19,384
research around how that does build

595
00:22:19,384 --> 00:22:22,362
resilience, building up in your mind and

596
00:22:22,362 --> 00:22:24,522
even writing down and thinking through

597
00:22:24,522 --> 00:22:26,826
some specific joy memories in your past

598
00:22:26,826 --> 00:22:28,970
where you can sit for a minute and

599
00:22:28,970 --> 00:22:30,922
meditation and really just remember the

600
00:22:30,922 --> 00:22:32,426
sights and the smells and the sounds of

601
00:22:32,426 --> 00:22:34,506
some of the joy memories in your life. One

602
00:22:34,506 --> 00:22:37,466
of my key joy memories is of being in

603
00:22:37,466 --> 00:22:39,106
Playuela, which is an island in Venezuela

604
00:22:39,106 --> 00:22:41,698
where I grew up, going quite often. It's

605
00:22:41,698 --> 00:22:43,810
also where my husband proposed to me, and

606
00:22:43,810 --> 00:22:46,074
also years later, we went to the same

607
00:22:46,074 --> 00:22:48,274
spot, and I was able to tell him we were

608
00:22:48,274 --> 00:22:51,442
expecting our first child. It's full of

609
00:22:51,442 --> 00:22:53,994
memories for me, of so much beauty and

610
00:22:53,994 --> 00:22:56,490
joy. In my life. And I can just recall

611
00:22:56,490 --> 00:22:59,306
that place and feel the powdery sand in my

612
00:22:59,306 --> 00:23:01,634
toes, and I can hear the wind blowing

613
00:23:01,634 --> 00:23:04,098
through the palm trees. I can hear the

614
00:23:04,098 --> 00:23:07,706
sound of the ice cream guy who was selling

615
00:23:07,706 --> 00:23:10,770
elao de coco and la concha, which is

616
00:23:10,770 --> 00:23:12,266
coconut ice cream, and the coconut shell

617
00:23:12,266 --> 00:23:14,850
that we would eat on the beach. I can feel

618
00:23:14,850 --> 00:23:17,010
the woven fabric of the hammock we would

619
00:23:17,010 --> 00:23:19,058
tie between two palm trees and take a

620
00:23:19,058 --> 00:23:22,138
siesta in. I can feel the warm, crystal

621
00:23:22,138 --> 00:23:24,082
clear waters of the Caribbean there that

622
00:23:24,082 --> 00:23:27,034
we would snorkel in and swim in. And years

623
00:23:27,034 --> 00:23:29,170
later, I was able to take my firstborn son

624
00:23:29,170 --> 00:23:31,146
there to swim in those waters as well,

625
00:23:31,146 --> 00:23:32,546
which was, unfortunately, the last time

626
00:23:32,546 --> 00:23:34,778
I've been, because Venezuela has been in a

627
00:23:34,778 --> 00:23:37,770
hard situation ever since. But it is a

628
00:23:37,770 --> 00:23:39,962
memory that brings me so much joy. So even

629
00:23:39,962 --> 00:23:41,770
when I think about the pain and suffering

630
00:23:41,770 --> 00:23:43,754
that's going on in Venezuela, which breaks

631
00:23:43,754 --> 00:23:46,962
my heart on a regular basis for my friends

632
00:23:46,962 --> 00:23:48,474
and community there, and so much they've

633
00:23:48,474 --> 00:23:51,336
suffered and faced, that joy, memory of

634
00:23:51,336 --> 00:23:53,872
the joy I had in that place is what helps

635
00:23:53,872 --> 00:23:56,912
me to process it. And it gives me

636
00:23:56,912 --> 00:23:58,560
resilience, even in my life today, for the

637
00:23:58,560 --> 00:24:01,192
things that I go through. So, yeah, I just

638
00:24:01,192 --> 00:24:03,296
want to encourage us to embrace those

639
00:24:03,296 --> 00:24:04,928
challenges, cultivate our resilience, and

640
00:24:04,928 --> 00:24:06,472
discover the strength and courage that

641
00:24:06,472 --> 00:24:08,184
lies within each of us. And I know that

642
00:24:08,184 --> 00:24:10,088
you have it. It's in there somewhere, and

643
00:24:10,088 --> 00:24:13,040
I want to call it out in you. So, yeah, I

644
00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:14,616
just want to say thank you so much for

645
00:24:14,616 --> 00:24:17,004
tuning into today's episode of a world of

646
00:24:17,004 --> 00:24:19,160
difference. I want you to remember that

647
00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:20,920
you matter, which means caring for

648
00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:23,240
yourself matters, and that cultivating

649
00:24:23,240 --> 00:24:25,128
resilience is something that I hope that

650
00:24:25,128 --> 00:24:27,816
you will prioritize for yourself, because

651
00:24:27,816 --> 00:24:30,224
not only do you deserve it, that human

652
00:24:30,224 --> 00:24:32,432
dignity and respect, but I know that as

653
00:24:32,432 --> 00:24:34,624
you do, that you will show others that

654
00:24:34,624 --> 00:24:36,688
they matter and deserve respect as well,

655
00:24:36,688 --> 00:24:37,920
because you're going to be modeling that

656
00:24:37,920 --> 00:24:39,952
for them, for your friends, for your

657
00:24:39,952 --> 00:24:41,824
family, for your colleagues, for everybody

658
00:24:41,824 --> 00:24:44,816
you're working with and your neighbors.

659
00:24:44,816 --> 00:24:46,776
There is something very powerful about

660
00:24:46,776 --> 00:24:49,336
seeing someone care for themselves that

661
00:24:49,336 --> 00:24:51,584
builds that kind of resilience in a world

662
00:24:51,584 --> 00:24:54,764
where we often are told to neglect

663
00:24:54,764 --> 00:24:59,648
ourselves at the expense of maybe a

664
00:24:59,648 --> 00:25:02,776
situation, building a company where you're

665
00:25:02,776 --> 00:25:05,752
an entrepreneur and you just go and go and

666
00:25:05,752 --> 00:25:08,704
go because you're working so hard, or

667
00:25:08,704 --> 00:25:10,296
you're starting a nonprofit in a place

668
00:25:10,296 --> 00:25:13,430
that it has a lot of need and you just

669
00:25:13,430 --> 00:25:16,078
feel guilty about taking care of yourself.

670
00:25:16,078 --> 00:25:18,606
So I just want to say that as you build

671
00:25:18,606 --> 00:25:20,454
resilience for yourself. Others will see

672
00:25:20,454 --> 00:25:22,686
that and it will show them and give them a

673
00:25:22,686 --> 00:25:25,222
permission to do that for themselves too

674
00:25:25,222 --> 00:25:28,438
and that is its own type of leadership and

675
00:25:28,438 --> 00:25:31,590
so yeah, but you deserve it. You deserve

676
00:25:31,590 --> 00:25:33,350
to cultivate resilience in your own life.

677
00:25:33,350 --> 00:25:36,166
Then I hope that you will let me know how

678
00:25:36,166 --> 00:25:37,646
you're doing that. Let me know any tips

679
00:25:37,646 --> 00:25:39,390
and tricks, especially for those of you

680
00:25:39,390 --> 00:25:41,286
who travel and are trying to build

681
00:25:41,286 --> 00:25:43,736
resilience for yourself as you travel and

682
00:25:43,736 --> 00:25:45,880
work through jetlag and show up to speak

683
00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:48,784
at events and conferences and all the

684
00:25:48,784 --> 00:25:50,480
things that you do and in the midst of it

685
00:25:50,480 --> 00:25:54,008
all do FaceTime calls with your family

686
00:25:54,008 --> 00:25:56,536
back home and try to keep all the things

687
00:25:56,536 --> 00:25:58,216
going. I'd love to hear how you're doing

688
00:25:58,216 --> 00:26:00,256
that for yourself and what's working for

689
00:26:00,256 --> 00:26:02,232
you and let's share some tips and tricks

690
00:26:02,232 --> 00:26:04,056
with each other. And in the meantime,

691
00:26:04,056 --> 00:26:06,736
until next time, remember to embrace your

692
00:26:06,736 --> 00:26:09,624
resilience and keep shining bright, keep